Focus on the Positive: What Can You Do?

 As we age, we all become aware of what we can no longer do, things that we just took for granted, and then one day, we realized we couldn't do something anymore.  I'll give you some examples from my own life.  As athletic and physical as I am, I noticed several years ago that I could no longer run.  I couldn't believe it, but it's true.  I don't know what happened, but I cannot run.  I can no longer put on certain pieces of jewelry, ones that require small motor dexterity. I keep dropping one side of the necklace and can't get it hooked.  Jars that I used to open easily are now more difficult.  I also notice a decline in my reflexes.  This is most apparent when I'm playing pickleball, which requires lightening fast reflexes.  My energy level has declined.  I used to go all day and into the night without rest, but no more.  An afternoon nap occasional feels really good.  Finally, I have noticed a decline in my beautiful handwriting.  It used to be perfect.  Now it looks messy.

You have probably experienced these and other changes in physical and mental ability.  We have a tendency to beat ourselves up because we can't do what we used to do.  I have tried to turn that around with positive talk and putting the focus on what I CAN do.

I can walk fast, even though I can't run.  I can buy jewelry with magnetic closings, and have the clasps changed on some of my favorite pieces so I can still wear them.  Jars are still a problem, but I have a rubberized rag that helps me open almost any jar or bottle.  When playing pickleball, I have tried to play a more strategic game, and not rely as much on strength.  Yes, I don't play like I used to, but I have lowered my expectations and feel satisfied that I can compete well for my age.  Energy, well, it just isn't what it used to be, so I try to plan less to do each day rather than feel frustrated and overwhelmed.

When our physical ability becomes less, we need to turn to more sedentary activities, like cards, puzzles, playing an instrument and reading.  We need to adapt activities to current skills, celebrate small wins, and focus on hobbies where we can achieve success.

Learning something new, like a new card game or artistic endeavor, is not only good for your brain, but it gives you a great sense of achievement.  

It's January, and a new year provides you with new opportunities.  Try something new.  Don't set your expectations too high.  Focus on new things you can do.  Be positive.